Esther Perel and thriving long term relationships

I am in love again.  I have such a girl crush on Esther Perel.  I can’t stop talking to people about her.  As I talked about in last week’s blog, she is changing my life (well, she and the horses together).

Some of you might not need to read this…you might be in a … Read more


Why I may not be a fuck up after all

I have just had an aha moment!

Realisation one – I am not a relationship fuck up, I’ve just been telling myself the wrong story.

I was driving into school, listening to yet more Esther Perel and thinking about my own relationship trajectory.

I am divorced and I come from a long line of divorcees.  … Read more


Change – Calving causes waves

The Glacial Lagoon

One of the day trips we did in Iceland took us to the Glacial Lagoon where the glaciers are melting into the sea.  I’ve already written about the cognitive dissonance I felt about watching what is ultimately a sign of global warming which I had contributed to by getting on a plane.… Read more


2 Trees – the nature of relationships

P and I were talking….about the nature of relationships…your average Sunday conversation.

He used the metaphor of 2 trees standing side by side but apart which reminded me of what Kahil Gibran says in ‘The Prophet’:

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your

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Chunking

This is a blog to thank Susan for reminding me of what I knew and had forgotten – doh!

Chunking.

Chunking is a concept from Neuro Linguistic Programming to help us get things done.

Chunking up is when we make the job, challenge, concept or task bigger by combing it or exaggerating it in order … Read more


Independence, compromise and collaboration

Spring has come which is why the rainbows are visiting our early morning wall paper..beautiful.

I don’t know if you have this in your relationships, especially with your significant others, but we seem to struggle with getting the balance right between what each of individually needs and what the group called ‘family’ needs.

When we … Read more


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