So many of the young people I have worked with over the years struggle with perfectionism. One of the ways I work with perfectionism is to turn it into a character and very often she is very closely related to our inner critic.
Perfectionist and the Inner Critic hang out together and sometimes seem like … Read more
Following your own track
I was rubbish at Physics at school, but I had to do it, either physics or chemistry and for me, they were both painful.
I got 4% in my first physics test and cried all the way home. It is the worst mark I have ever had. One of the reasons I went on to … Read more
Rewilding the land and yourself
In the first lockdown when the sun was out and the sky was blue and it felt like a treat not to have to commute, I read so many books about nature, Joanna Macy, and climate change. I also read Wilding by Isabella Tree and agreed! But I don’t own acres so I … Read more
Water runs down hill….
Children don’t do what I did in my twenties with Clare. Do not hitch hike to France and find yourselves in an isolated house with a hoard of hard drinking male truck drivers. Do not. We survived unharmed and emerged into the daylight wiser and saved by two nice guys who had stopped the rattling, … Read more
Self worth and awe
Do you know there is a difference between guilt and shame? Self-worth and awe?
I met John Perry on my Barefoot training course 10 years ago and something he said about Driver Behaviours was part of what gave me the push to leave my marriage. I don’t think we have spoken since then, but we … Read more
Authenticity, clarity and relationship
I know, I know..I’ve been going on about horses for a couple of years now (and they are all over this new site!). Oh! I miss them in lockdown. I spoke to Liz my horse witch friend this week and no matter how she regaled me with tales of mud and cold, I still wanted … Read more